tired.

i seem to be getting tired quite easily the past few days.
stress. fatigue. burnout. whatever it is, seems to be catching up with me sooooo fast it must be travelling all over my body with a speed of 180mph (okay. okay. i am exaggerating...so?).

going to the gym - doing combat class, jam and rockstar, indulging in steam and sauna bliss does little to keep tiredness at bay...or even put a fleeting lid to its vaporous toxicity.

today, i have to finish this particular feature for one of my shows.
and i don't have a tape recorder at hand.
whether it's a damper or a blessing in disguise i don't know.

to be plain tart about it, the fleeting vacancy is a few hours of escape from the shackling demands of my work. but then again, whatever little rest it offers it fails to give me comfort.

hay....

got a sore back that needs a serious kneading.
i am desperately aching for a massage. fact is, i am imagining one right now.
soft lights - nope, make it tea lights...bathing the room with its mellow, pulpy glow.
an oil lamp burning faint traces of peppermint and lavender...soft, plump, fluffy white pillows within reach for a quick embrace of bliss...and then the body will be readied for a good, thorough, massage...softly kneading at first, gradually paving way to harder palm thrusts that would eventually untangle nerves long sore and almost frayed from the gruelling rigors of the day.

ahhhhhhhhhh........
i need this!

at the podium

last august 20 was another day well spent with friends whom you know you'd only be too glad to share a meal with, funny conversations, good-natured arguments and bickering.

it was kinda cute...
to see that we have all soooo grown up and then not so much really...

Benggay and moi!

Ella and THE DESSERT -- Hazelnut Banana Crepe! which was sinfully delicious by the way.

here we are! with our two "boys" Gordon - Mausie's hubby and Uri

the PINK LADIES and the cutie tyke.

in terms of numbers, the only SmartMouth absent was Bong. the lone dude in a gang of boisteros femmes. but then again, he has good reason (he'd better! right Benggacious?!).
but his absence was readily filled with URI - Mau's cute son and my future heartbreaker of inaanak!

at mukhang mataas ang potential na maging text addict din ang batang ito! hahahhaa

or beautician?!!!!

whatever, it was another drizzling Sunday dinner that simply add warmth to a rather chilly weather. so,let's all wait for Tina's homecoming and birthday celebration.

cheers, bottoms up! right mate?!

stress and the color purple.

define stress. that's me.
stress becomes me today. methinks it's a spillover from yesterday's toxicity.
i've got a workload that would perhaps put an average joe to shame...
but then again, i am no average jane.

i have two hands, but yet my work demands 12.

i have to listen, type, run an errand, cut paper, paste, photocopy, fix an interview schedule, do an interview (with three cute kids!), transcribe the interview, materialize a full length feature article, beat newspaper deadlines for a weekend release, read charts and graphs, craft another column feed, log my weekend report.

all of these, i have to finish. oh, and lest i forgot, i must remain smiling.
whew! try beating that. hahahahaha

i am sooooooo beat up today.
my head's in a whack. i'm stalled.
nope, let me re-phrase that. i am stalling myself.
all because i want to keep my sanity.
and the best way to do that? pick my phone, take a pic of myself and see how i am faring despite the stress that seems to strangle my the very life from me.
wow...smashingly gorgeous hahahahaha
yeah. yeah. i don't care if your eyebrows went off the roof.
this is my space. my moment. >beh<


i look tired here 'no? well, i am.
a bubbly conversation with my beloved brother, Dale surely kicked in some cheers.
kaya siguro i could still afford to smile back and de-stress. 'ei bro, miss yah!



why so purple? i dunno. purple used to be my fave color. well, until now it remains to be my favored hue. purple. among the reds, vermillions, blacks and white (pink is a hue of red, so there).

hayyy...so many things to write...am just soooo tired..and am still here at the office.

when you fall in love....by bo sanchez

When You FALL IN LOVE
(Debunking the Myths That Are Driving You Crazy)
By Bo Sanchez


This article isn't for teenagers only.
Falling in love happens to the young and the not-so-young. (Did you see 42-year-old Tom Cruise jump up and down Oprah's couch because of Katie?) It happens to everyone.
Fat, thin, tall, short, intelligent, uneducated, holy, not so holy, dark, white, yellow, green... it doesn't really matter.
All of us fall in love.
And we get stuck in myths that drive us absolutely crazy.
My goal is to debunk these myths and convince you not to believe in them.
Let's begin..........

MYTH 1: LOVE WILL CONQUER ALL
Let me qualify. This is such a tricky myth.
Because love will conquer all. But love ------ as defined by glazed-eyed lovers ----- will not.

If you believe in this myth, you might do the following:
You overlook major obstacles in your relationship.

Everyone you know is wondering why you chose that creature from outer space as your boyfriend. Your bestfriends are telling you to get rid of him. Your family is telling you to throw him out of a running vehicle. Aling Rosa of the sari-sari store across the street is telling you to lace his drink with poison.

But you won't --------- because you're in love.

That's why there are songs entitled, "you and me against the world" Your bestbuds comment, 'but he's been jobless for the past three years!" And you say, "He's free-spirited. He feels boxed in when he's in the office. '(in other words, he's undisciplined, lazy bum.) Your officemates say, 'He flirts with other women constantly!' and you say, 'No, he's just friendly.' (in other words, he's a pervert) Your cousins say, 'He's taking drugs, He's got needle marks all over his arm. And you say, 'No, he's into cross stitching.'


You overstay in toxic relationships, believing that your love will change him.

The wedding doesn't transform anyone.
Even if three Popes officiate the wedding.
The person you'll march with into the church will be the same person you'll march with out of the church. He doesn't change one bit. In fact, the marriage makes the hidden more obvious.
If he was selfish before he got married, he will be even more selfish after the wedding.
If he was hypercritical before he got married, he'll even be more vile and prolific with his criticisms after wedding.

Here's the truth : You need more than feelings of love to make a relationship work. You need mature character, total commitment and a minimum level of compatibility.

Especially compatibility in the area of values and mission in life. I hear people say, 'We're compatible. Our names begin with the same letter J. My name is Julie and his name is Julio. We're both born in July." Wow. That's so deep, I want to cry.

MYTH 2 : WHEN IT"S TRUE LOVE YOU WILL KNOW THE MOMENT YOU MEET THE OTHER PERSON

I'm sure you've had this experience before.
You are in a crowded room. You're surrounded by boring, noisy chatter when, suddenly, this gorgeous guy enters the door. Your eyes meet. Instantly, time stands still. The universe grinds to a halt. Except for this attractive man in front of you, everything in your vision becomes a giant blur. The hubbub of the crowd becomes a soft muffle and, from out of nowhere, you here gentle violin music from the background.

One week later, he's your boyfriend. A few weeks later, you discover that your boyfriend's a pathological liar, buried in credit card debt, borrows money from all his girlfriends (you're his eight in six months). Your mind says, 'Dump him' Your heart says, 'But it was love at first sight!' Here are the consequences ...

You become so focused on the magical first moment, you become blind to the dark side of the relationship. Six out of seven days, you're fighting with your boyfriend. But you can't give him up because you met each other in such a magical moment. Your car keys fell and he picked it up, and then your eyes met, you smelled his deodorant, and you dropped your keys again ......How can you not be meant for each other?

You become a love-at-first-sight junkie that you could miss out on the 'real thing'. One intelligent woman told me, 'Bo, there's this guy who's courting me. He's okay. He's kind, he's responsible, he has a good job.......' "I could hear a 'but' coming ," I said. 'but there are no sparks!" she bit her lip. "No violin music playing in the background huh" "none. When I see him, the background music I hear is lululalu-lalulalulalei..." "listen. You don't need a magical first moment to meet our potential husband. The important things are mature character, financial responsibility, ability for commitment, compatible mission and values..." I actually met this girl again on her wedding, and before she marched down the aisle, she whispered to me, "Do you hear the violin music, Bo? It's loud and clear."

It doesn't have to be love at first sight. In fact, marriages with the least adjustments are those between friends who've known each other for years before they realize that they're good marriage material.

What is love at first sight? Many times, it's lust at first sight. Or infatuation at first sight.
Don't give it too much weight.

Here's the truth: it takes a moment to experience infatuation but true love takes a lifetime.

MYTH 3 : IF IT IS TRUE LOVE YOU WILL FEEL THIS WAY FOR EACH OTHER FOREVER

No, you won't. Here are the consequences for believing this myth :

You panic when the feelings wane, and wonder whether the marriage is over and whether you really loved one another in the first place. Imagine the night of your honeymoon. Your new bride is sleeping. The cotton curtains are gently swaying in the cool breeze. You gaze at her lovely face. You study her soft cheeks. Her long eyelashes. Her beautiful nose, her parted red lips. And all of a sudden, she snores. "Ngggggggooork" How do you react? Because it's your honeymoon, you say, 'How cute.' Six months down the road, the same scene transpires. Your wife is sleeping. And the same cotton curtains are gently swaying in the cool breeze. And you hear her snore. "Ngggggoork." What do you say? "Ssssssheeeesh, Honey! You sound like a boat!' What has happened? The feelings have gone.

Let me say this: 'That's normal. It happens to everyone. But it doesn't mean your love is gone so don't panic! You can make a decision to love the snoring boat.

You start blaming your partner for the loss of love.
This is nutty.
But many people do it: when we don't feel in love, we think it's the fault of the other person. And so we fight him. Again, we fall out of love because we're human beings. It's nobody's fault. The moment you fall out of love, the real work begins .

Let me explain. This is the most important point I'm going to make. (I got this from Scott Peck in his bestseller book, The Road Less traveled)

Falling in love isn't love Here's why.
When you fall in love.....
a. No decision is required. Falling in love just happens.
b. No effort is required. Falling in love is like.... Well, falling.
c. No hard work is required. Falling in love is being bitten by the lovebug.

On the other hand, true love requires all three : Decision, effort and lots of hard work.

In the Bible, love is a command. You make it happen.

Sure true love can only happen after you've fallen out of love.
When you begin choosing to love, even if you don't feel like doing it ---- that's true love.
And that's the foundation of a lasting marriage.

MYTH 4: YOUR PARTNER WILL FULFILL YOU COMPLETELY

Again because falling in love satisfied you completely ----- you want the same satisfaction to last. No it won't. Consequence? You might fail to recognize a good relationship because your partner isn't fulfilling the needs you should be fulfilling yourself.

Here's the truth: the right partner will fulfill many of your needs but not all of them .

There are just some things your husband can't give you: you're self-worth. Your spirituality. Your inner happiness. These are things you have to work on your own.

I've met lots of people who think they're dissatisfied with their marriage.

In reality, they're dissatisfied with themselves.

I've met lots of people who think they're bored with their marriages. And they complain to the high heavens how boring their husband or wife is ---- when in truth, they're really bored with life.

Meet your own needs. Find your happiness in God. Find your niche, your calling, your destiny. And then share your joy with your spouse.

MYTH 5: IF IT'S TRUE LOVE YOU WON'T BE ATTRACTED TO ANYONE ELSE

If you believe in this myth, you panic when you get attracted to someone else, questioning the authenticity of your love for your spouse.

One man told me, 'Bo, I love my wife. Or I thought I did. But then I met this woman at work. She has nice make-up. She smells nice. She wears a pencil-cut skirt. When I go home, my wife is wearing a drab rag. Her hair is undone. She smells of vinegar. Gosh I am attracted to this girl at work."

Being attracted to someone is normal ----- even if you have a happy marriage.

But being attracted doesn't mean falling into adultery. Every time you think of the other woman, discipline your heart and say, 'Home, boy, Home!' and escort your heart back to your wife. Because if you feed your attraction with fantasies and constantly think about the other woman, it grows.
But if you starve your attraction, it dies a natural death.